It’s time to start talking about how your relationship was affected right after your loss. We’ll revisit this several times, as new mamas come in and out, and we’ll also look at how things changed as the days and weeks passed.
I wrote this right after Casey died.
On our first night in Galveston, the lead story on the news was a baby who had been abandoned by her mother shortly after she gave birth to it in the hospital. They showed the baby, wiggling on a white blanket, so totally unaware. I wanted to go get it. It was so terribly unfair that she could have a normal happy baby and just leave it.
Rats. Now I’m making myself cry. We went to the gym last night and I weigh exactly what I did at the doctor on my last visit. I can’t believe it. 20 pounds overweight and no baby.
John and I got in several fights on the trip. We never fight, so it was terribly frightening. I felt like my world was cracking around the edges and falling away in dry, crumbled pieces.
Those of you who don’t know my story can read it here.
So tell me — how did you and your husband/partner/baby’s father act differently in the first day or two after your loss?