Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

I’m spending this morning listening to the song list that I will play at tonight’s candle lighting ceremony here in Austin. Each year, I have added a new favorite to the list, and now, hearing my history of song choices, I’m reminded of all the time that has passed since I was pregnant the first time. So optimistic I was, unaware that anything could go wrong.

Of course, I still had no idea all the directions life would go. Three babies wouldn’t make it. Two would, but Elizabeth is reminded every day of the complications of losing her twin sister, medicine twice a day and still not knowing when or where a seizure might happen anyway.

But we are grateful, so grateful for the two daughters we got to keep. And while today will be hard, it always is, I don’t forget that this journey led to my life’s work, a purpose that carries me through everything. Other people might question why they are on this earth, what they are meant to do. But I know.

Here are the events happening here in Austin today:

10 a.m.
Memorial Service at Gateway church
The theme is Seasons of Hope. They’ll be planting a memorial tree on the church property in honor of those who’ve lost children through miscarriage and still birth.

3 p.m.

Baby Dust: A Novel about Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss
Book Launch and Signing

The Book Spot
1205 Round Rock Ave #119
Round Rock, TX 78681 (Map)
(Corner of 620 and Lake Creek Dr. by Round Rock High School.)
Book summary: What happens when five women from completely different walks of life each lose a baby? Support. Healing. Friendship.
Families will be given candles to light during the Wave of Light that evening.!/event.php?eid=248851078490256

5 p.m.
Face2Face Austin Dinner and Balloon Release

A local support group affiliate of Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope will be hosting a gathering at La Margarita Restaurant (1530 IH-35) in Round Rock immediately following the book launch.!/event.php?eid=179100578838084

7 p.m.
Wave of Light Candlelighting

Deanna has hosted the annual candlelighting to coincide with the international wave of light for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day for many years.

We meet by the pond next to the lighted fountains behind the Long Center to light our candles from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m. in a silent memorial vigil.

Park off Riverside Drive near Auditorium Shores or in the lot on Dawson Rd. (Map)


If you need music to play while you are lighting a candle at home, Casey Shay Press has a YouTube playlist of beautiful songs.


It’s Baby Dust’s book birthday!

Today is the kick off to Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Month, and the official release day for Baby Dust, my novel about miscarriage and pregnancy loss.

Here is the latest review of Baby Dust from Dead Baby Club:

“This book is different than anything I have ever read before about the loss of a baby… Grief isn’t painted as a pretty picture in this book, but as something that is real and that affects far more women than people realize or care to acknowledge.”

And now, for the winners of the three amazing books for Baby Loss Moms:

About What Was Lost a collection of stories by women who have lost babies– Jackie

In the Company of Angels: A Record Book for babies lost to miscarriage, stillbirth, or early neonatal loss– Brittany S.

We were gonna have a baby, but we had an angel instead which helps your children understand about the baby that is no longer coming — Dawn

I’ll be emailing all of you to get mailing addresses to send you your book.

Two great organizations are providing profile pictures on Facebook for October. I’ll be switching back and forth.

Robyn Bear of and the Founder of PAIL Remembrance Day has this one:


And Kristin Cook, Founder of has this one:

Right-click to save and upload to Facebook to make it your profile picture.

It’s our month to celebrate the lives of our babies!